Eventually we felt okay, and we forgot each other, as much as anyone could. And I always wondered after, was that real? Was that love?
Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Boy loses girl.
What Happens to people that love each other?"
“I Suppose they have whatever they have, and they are more fortunate than others. Then one of them gets the emptiness forever
I have always found the most creative ways to say I’m sorry. It was everything that came before that lacked.
It’s not that I couldn’t come up with great ways to say ‘I love you’ when we were together, but necessity is, as they say, the mother of invention. As though only with the freedom of thinking there is nothing left to lose could I tap into the actual depths of my imagination.
And so with each spot of tape on each telephone pole and subway platform I felt like I was laying down a foundation. While I was in bed, while at work, the flyers became an emotional proxy. Even if it wasn’t understood by others, it made a whole lot of sense to me.
Some people saw it for what it was. Thank you. Others condemned it as any number of… well don’t worry, it wasn’t for you. It was for me and for her. That’s it. That’s all I have.
Came upon the story of this fellow the other day and cannot help but think of him. Perhaps Steinbeck said it best in a letter to his son:
November 10, 1958
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.
Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.
You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.
If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.
Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.
Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.
We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.